She’s 41 years old, divorced with 3 small kids… and men LUST after her

Relationship Counselor Bob Grant reveals why EVERYTHING you’ve been told about what men want is wrong… why giving a man what he wants actually repulses him and how to use your emotions to stir up his deepest passions.

If you look at any men’s magazine or website, you’ll hear these familiar themes:

“I want a woman who’s easygoing.”

“I want someone who’s positive, upbeat and wants to have a good time.”

“I don’t want any pressure to commit. I just want to see what happens.”

The problem with those statements is simply: They’re flat out WRONG.

Now don’t get me wrong; it’s not that those things aren’t appealing, but they won’t make a man’s heart race when he’s within 3 feet of you.

As strange as this might sound…

When You Give A Man Everything He Says He Wants – It Actually Makes Him Think You’re Weak and PITIFUL.

If that sounds weird to you, you need to know this secret about men:

What they SAY they want and what they ACTUALLY want are 2 entirely different things

(Click here for a more in-depth explanation in this special video).

This is why a woman who caters to a man’s every wish is shocked when he tells her:

“I’m sorry but it just isn’t working out.”

In fact, that’s just what happened to one of my former clients named Anna. Two days after her 41st birthday, her husband told her he was leaving her.  At that time she was 41 years old with 4 children, all under the age of 9, and she had just become a single parent, not by her choice.

I can still see the tears in her eyes as she looked at me and said:

“Bob, who’s going to want a 41-year-old woman with 4 small kids?”

What’s worse is she worked really hard at being upbeat and not complaining…. And yet, the more she gave, the less he loved her.

During our first meeting, I shared with her this secret: Giving is Masculine while Receiving is Feminine.

If you give more to a man than you receive back from him, even though he tells you that’s what he wants, it’s only a matter of time before you fall into…

The Giving Pit
And here’s the big trap. Once you start putting his needs above yours, he’ll start to feel that it’s your job to keep him happy. Before long he’ll start to feel like you’re his MOTHER.

So what do men really want in a woman? I’m going to share with you something that is counter intuitive to everything even men tell you they want in a woman. The real secret to stirring up a man’s passion for you is located within your heart right now. It’s your emotions that stir up the passion that’s locked away deep inside his heart.

Now, this is where it gets a bit tricky. Most women I speak with, LOVE the idea of sharing the fun feelings; but the moment they get upset with a man, this common fear grips their heart:

“If I upset him, he’ll leave me.”

And while keeping the peace works short term, you’re literally training him to take you for granted.  And once he starts feeling this way toward you, it’s only a matter of time before he’s looking for your replacement.

But imagine you knew how to use your feelings (ALL of your feelings) to stir up a man’s passion for you. Most men will never tell you this, but I will…

Whenever you have a disagreement with a man, this is what he’s thinking,

“If you can’t handle me when I’m upset, then how can I trust you when I’m scared?”

See, he wants to give you his heart, but he needs to see that you’re not fragile. As much as he wants to be your knight in shining armor, there are times when he wants to lean on you. If he sees you know how to take care of yourself, even when he’s angry with you, without getting into a big fight, it’s incredibly sexy.

This is the ultimate test a man uses to determine if you’re the one special woman for him. If you know how to use your emotions, all of your emotions, then you’ll know to react in any situation without even having to “think” about it.

How To Use Your Emotions To Mesmerize A Man
Please be careful: If you simply start sharing all of your feelings with a man, you’ll likely overwhelm him or worse – turn him off completely. Once you begin using your feelings the right way, you’ll notice men looking at you differently and leaning closer to you when you talk. It’s not because of some “magic words” you’ve learned but because they want more and more of YOU.

If fact, you’ll start glowing, without even trying. This is what happened to Anna the day she stepped into the elevator and pushed the button to her floor. As the elevator began its ascent, a man who had been talking on his cellphone stopped and glanced at her, then looked away. She felt a nervous twinge and then a moment later he said, “I’m sorry, but I don’t normally do this. I don’t know if I’ll ever see you again, so I wanted to ask you if I could call you sometime.”

She tried to dismiss her experience as something random, until 2 weeks later it happened to her again at a friend’s dinner party. Two men, one on each side, kept begging for her phone number and wanting to know when they could see her again.

What happened to Anna is what I call “The Campfire Effect.” This is when you effortlessly glow and charm a man without even trying.

I’ve taught this to my 1-on-1 clients for years, and now I’ll share these same secrets with you in this special video.


I’m sharing this with you not just for your sake, but also for that one special man that WANTS you to melt his heart. If not for your sake, then for his…

Watch this video now because he’s desperately walking around right this second just waiting to feel “The Campfire Effect” from you.

Bob Grant, L.P.C

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Bob Grant

Bob Grant is a licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in Atlanta, Ga. In addition he is a bestselling author on as well as the creator of "The Woman Men Adore.. and Never Want To Leave" program. Featured on,, he is known as an international expert on relationships. Find out more at

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