It’s Digital Romance founder and CEO Michael Fiore. I continue to receive astonishing feedback about our “Ask Mike” feature, and am overwhelmed by the “thank you’s” and requests for “More, more, more.”
As a relationship, love, sex, and passion expert I’m dedicated to giving you what you want. So I’m just gonna — excuse me for just one sec here while I set the mood…
(lights candles and incense, sets record player on easy listening jazz…)
Okay I’m back.
So I’m just gonna give you more of exactly what you want. (Ladies, imagine me saying this in a sultry, silky voice).
Okay, here we go…
Tiffany from Dallas, Texas asks:
I was at a happy hour the other night catching up with some single girlfriends. We were just tossing back some drinks like girls like to do on a Friday night. The kids were with sitters and we wanted to let loose a little. Meeting men was a distant goal for the night, but we were content just hanging out.
We heard these guys talking at the table next to us. They were pretty loud and drunk, even though they thought they were whispering. They were all in their 30’s or 40’s, and talking about dating.
So naturally my lady friends and I listened in. What we heard was shocking.
“Women over ‘the wall’ are nothing but baggage.”
What? I couldn’t believe what I was hearing! Here was a man who was “moderately attractive” automatically ruling out an entire age group of single women, because they’re universally baggage?
He went on to say,
“They’re too much ‘work.’ Screw ‘em and dump ‘em, sure. But something serious with a woman past 35 is a huge gamble. The deck is stacked against you, and the house always wins.
… They’re damaged. Don’t waste your time.
They’re either watching their biological clock ticking away —
… desperate for a baby
… or they’re just looking for a ‘provider’ to meet some unrealistic expectations.
Stick to girls in their 20’s — your odds are better. They put out, they’ll put up with anything. Finding a woman over 35 who’s worth the extra baggage would be like finding a unicorn.”
Mike, I was speechless at the time, and I’m still trying to wrap my head around everything they had to say. Here’s my question.
Do men really feel this way? Is this the perception that my single friends and I have to overcome, just to get a date? We’re “baggage?” We’re a big financial risk?
What is this UNICORN he’s talking about, and how do I become one?”
Single and Perplexed,
Mike’s answer… (drumroll!)
Tiffany, Tiffany, Tiffany. Okay.
Thank you for writing in with your question, and for writing with such excellent grammar! I’ve heard about this “baggage” label many times. I understand it can be scary to be thought of as “baggage.” Don’t worry. I’ve made a special video for you, where you’ll discover a special skill that any woman — of any age — can use to become this mystical “unicorn” that guy was talking about with his friends.
However, you have to promise (I mean seriously promise, like double pinky promise) to never ever EVER use this skill on that guy from the bar. That guy was a jerk-wad. A straight up asshole.
You must promise to only use this powerful new skill on men who are worthy of you and your astonishing ability to love.
Got it? Awesome.
Okay, now on to business.
There’s two things you need to know.
First, there’s the answer you don’t want to hear…
Lots of men view women over 35 as “baggage.” Sure, it’s true. These guys have either had bad experiences, or they’ve spent too much time trolling online forums where single men whine about their exes. As with most things, people will talk about their bad experiences more than their positive ones.
Keep in mind, if these guys knew what the hell they were talking about, they would wouldn’t be single and bitter. Unfortunately, these guys are “bad apples” and they’re spoiling all the incredible single guys out there — aka “good apples” — with their bile.
Not all single guys are bitter.
And this whole “women over 35 are baggage” thing is a real obstacle you’re going to face out in dating land, because, like I said, the assholes have incredible word of mouth.
But here’s some incredible news. You’ll be thrilled to know, when you watch this special video I made for you, you’ll discover there’s a certain linguistic skill you can easily learn, which you can use to turn the table on any man who views women over 35 as “heavy baggage.”
Learn This Skill and NEVER Worry About Being “Heavy Baggage” Again!
Linguistic skill? No, I’m not talking about blowjobs, you dirty little girl. (No guy is going to complain about bee-jays, by the way.) But I’m actually talking about psychological tricks — how you can use words that make men ache for you and salivate like Pavlov’s dog at the mere thought of these words dripping from your lips.
Before I get into what this “skill” is, remember, you can use this skill for good or evil. I hope you’ll choose wisely.
AND you can use this skill on any man.
You can use it to A) get laid on a random horny night, or B) tame the wildest confirmed bachelor into a husband that seethes at the loins for your body. But I recommend you make sure any man can pass this 3 step test.
If you’re looking for option A… High five, you go girl! Just skip straight here.
But if you’re looking for option B, make sure he can pass this test before using your new ninja trick.
Don’t worry, it’s not one of those “trick a guy” tests. It’s just a few pointers for picking the good quality guys from the jerks. This is ideal for when you’re hanging out with your lady friends at a bar on a Friday night.
The 3 Part TEST! Let’s begin.
Part 1: Does he stare incessantly at the television or his cellphone while his friends are talking? If the answer is yes, move on! Think about it. If this guy takes the time to go out with his friends for drinks, yet pays no attention to them, there’s a good chance he’s an asshole. Like, huge odds. Skip over him. Move on.
Part 2: How does he treat wait staff? Is he rude or sarcastic? Guys who don’t respect wait staff or service people don’t respect MOST people. And this is key. Does he tip generously? Men who know how to treat service people are more likely to be charitable and giving. I don’t have science to back this up, but I’m always right. Oh, he’s more likely to be more generous in bed too. You might be interested in that, so I just thought I’d mention it.
Part 3: Can he look you in the eyes? Can he talk to you without looking away? Is he captivated by your words? Can he give you the attention you crave? (The attention you deserve, by the way!)
When a man passes all three of these “tests” then there’s a good chance he’s relationship material, and possibly worthy of your newfound skill. When you know how to use the right combination of carefully chosen words, no man will care if you’re over 35, 45, or even 75. And it won’t matter how much baggage you bring with you either.
Tiffany, take this information and do with it what you will. It’s powerful. I wish you luck, and let me know how it goes.
— So, that’s my suggestion for Tiffany, and for any woman who worries about suffering from the over the wall, undesirable, “baggage” label. Watch this video and you’ll discover how you can immediately turn the tables and use the magnetic power of the female voice to conquer the wildest, untamable bachelor.
Do you feel like Tiffany? Are you “over the wall” and worried you’ll never again be emotionally or physically desired?
If you want a man to view you as a desirable, unicorn, then watch this video now. When he discovers you’re a unicorn, he’ll slay fire-breathing dragons, crawl over searing, white hot coals, or even shop in the tampon aisle, for the opportunity to lay roses at your feet and massage your piggy toes!
P.S. Go check out the video right now, ‘mmkay? You’ll thank me later.